Learning About Jesus From a Waterfall
That waterfall has become the key to understanding one of the most puzzling verses in the Bible for me. Here it is: "Just as the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love" (John 15:9). Jesus is speaking to His disciples about the life He wants them to live, one of staying in His love. He goes on to explain that we stay there by loving others as we have been loved by Him (vs. 10-12). For the last twenty years, I have struggled to grasp what it really means to stay in His love. What does it look like for a man to feel the love the Father has for the Son and then live there? And why is this so hard to experience?
Why? Because my heart has stayed in so many other places: shame, anger, fear, envy, pride, apathy, deadness. It has also been hooked to so many idols, first being seduced, then corrupted, and finally imprisoned by them. But I know that my struggle here is the struggle of every man. How are we to approach this life, one that is central to all men who want to follow Jesus? How are we to feel that love from the Father, the love of being a beloved son, the love that makes us into true men, and then offer to others?
The answer was the waterfall.
Inviting Others Under the Waterfall
One day while I was wrestling with this verse again, Jesus brought up the memory of the waterfall, and it all connected. Yes, this is how it works. My job is just to stay under the waterfall and let the water of His love keep flowing over me, in me, and through me. Then as I sit there, I am to offer that water to those around me. The image became not just a defining one, but a healing one. I could go there and sit in the water that never runs dry, the water of His presence and love, available at any moment of any day.
But then something else happened. I began to see myself not just offering water to others, but picturing friends and family sitting under the waterfall with me. They too need to be in that waterfall. Whatever we can offer others as men with our words, or time, or gifts is never enough. It’s not even close. It’s just a small cupful. But our commission from Jesus is to offer it and then encourage them to get under the waterfall with us.
For we are all dry, parched souls—empty and longing. Our hearts are all distracted, deceived, and seduced. We all desperately need that waterfall, the waterfall of His love.
So whatever you do, stay under the waterfall.
How do you start to do this? Just ask Him: “Jesus, how can I remain in your love?” Keep asking until He shows you how.
Trust me, He will.
Bill Delvaux is a graduate of Duke University and Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and has served as a pastor and a high school Bible teacher. Presently, he leads Landmark Journey Ministries as a speaker, small group coach, and author of Divided: When the Head and Heart Don’t Agree and Landmarks: Turning Points on Your Journey Toward God. Bill and his wife have two grown daughters and reside in Franklin, TN. Follow Bill on Twitter @BillDelvaux.